You know at first I was thinking "Why would leftists give him trouble over a thing like this?" Then I remembered. He is admitting he follows Glenn Reynolds. And they are leftists.
After Moms brain surgery, and especially after she got so confused she was fighting the nurses overnight and they had to strap her down and sedate her, I handed out Starbucks gift cards to all of them. Mom was being especially difficult, and they stood toe to toe with her. I know that’s their job, but I can barely deal with a cranky 83 year old at home. They deserved some kind of little pick me up.
Thanks for showing what a responsible advocate should and can do to improve the care and well being of a loved one. I have walked that road for over 14 yrs with my parents and later my mother in law. I wouldn’t change what I did nor my personal sacrifices. My life has been far richer than I could have imagined.
Glenn the go to bag for the hospital is fantastic. Covers all of the bases. I have the privilege of carrying a second to go bag with my emergency items for my Urostomy. It’s better than being 6 ft under due to bladder cancer.
I Have been a big fan of yours. You were one of the first blogs I added to my daily reading list. I have no idea how long ago that was. Maybe 20+yrs? Happy holidays. JT
As an elderly who has been both the patient and the sitter for other elderlies, my parents, I agreed very much with the first post and this one. Good to hear from the physician's perspective. I cannot emphasize enough the need for a sitter with a patient who cannot speak up for themselves. I've been there on both sides of the situation. There are times though, when the patient is well enough to say to the person staying with them, "I'm okay now, time for you to go home and get some rest, I'll be fine for the night." If in fact they are better, and you can tell for sure they are, then respect their wishes. Sometimes a patient just wants to be alone for a change.
I've always had good care and enjoyed visiting with my nurses when it is quiet during the night.
Those of us fortunate to be in our 60's and 70;s have dealt with the issues of dwindling capacities and tough decisions with our parents decline. But too often we thought of it as dealing with our elder parents' issues. Now we are the elder parents to be and need to think of our children as the ones to deal with their elder parents. It's a tough reality for some to see the change of roles. But having gone through it, we can help our kids by the lessons hopefully learned, hard as it may be to deal with our mortality.
Thanks for taking the time to write and share this. So much on-target info here. We've been caring for aging parents for the past few years and have been in / out of the hospital with them.
In the process my wife and I have re-done our will(s) and all the associated docs DPOAs, HIPPA releases and beefing up insurance.
Two years our financial advisor told us to update and make sure all our legal papers were up to date. Our wills were done in 2007 and legal issues change over the years. We are now 89 and 90 and all powers of attorney, Hippa, etc are up to date. It is a relief to get that done. Best advice from a caring advisor.
On the last line: yeah, medicine's bad, especially the MDs. The Divine One normally tells people at the office activities she doesn't let me go to, "Oh, he's in Europe again. Consulting, you know."
You know at first I was thinking "Why would leftists give him trouble over a thing like this?" Then I remembered. He is admitting he follows Glenn Reynolds. And they are leftists.
After Moms brain surgery, and especially after she got so confused she was fighting the nurses overnight and they had to strap her down and sedate her, I handed out Starbucks gift cards to all of them. Mom was being especially difficult, and they stood toe to toe with her. I know that’s their job, but I can barely deal with a cranky 83 year old at home. They deserved some kind of little pick me up.
Thanks for showing what a responsible advocate should and can do to improve the care and well being of a loved one. I have walked that road for over 14 yrs with my parents and later my mother in law. I wouldn’t change what I did nor my personal sacrifices. My life has been far richer than I could have imagined.
Glenn the go to bag for the hospital is fantastic. Covers all of the bases. I have the privilege of carrying a second to go bag with my emergency items for my Urostomy. It’s better than being 6 ft under due to bladder cancer.
I Have been a big fan of yours. You were one of the first blogs I added to my daily reading list. I have no idea how long ago that was. Maybe 20+yrs? Happy holidays. JT
As an elderly who has been both the patient and the sitter for other elderlies, my parents, I agreed very much with the first post and this one. Good to hear from the physician's perspective. I cannot emphasize enough the need for a sitter with a patient who cannot speak up for themselves. I've been there on both sides of the situation. There are times though, when the patient is well enough to say to the person staying with them, "I'm okay now, time for you to go home and get some rest, I'll be fine for the night." If in fact they are better, and you can tell for sure they are, then respect their wishes. Sometimes a patient just wants to be alone for a change.
I've always had good care and enjoyed visiting with my nurses when it is quiet during the night.
Those of us fortunate to be in our 60's and 70;s have dealt with the issues of dwindling capacities and tough decisions with our parents decline. But too often we thought of it as dealing with our elder parents' issues. Now we are the elder parents to be and need to think of our children as the ones to deal with their elder parents. It's a tough reality for some to see the change of roles. But having gone through it, we can help our kids by the lessons hopefully learned, hard as it may be to deal with our mortality.
Thanks for taking the time to write and share this. So much on-target info here. We've been caring for aging parents for the past few years and have been in / out of the hospital with them.
In the process my wife and I have re-done our will(s) and all the associated docs DPOAs, HIPPA releases and beefing up insurance.
Two years our financial advisor told us to update and make sure all our legal papers were up to date. Our wills were done in 2007 and legal issues change over the years. We are now 89 and 90 and all powers of attorney, Hippa, etc are up to date. It is a relief to get that done. Best advice from a caring advisor.
Also, make sure anyone who comes in the room washes their hands (or 'foams').
On the last line: yeah, medicine's bad, especially the MDs. The Divine One normally tells people at the office activities she doesn't let me go to, "Oh, he's in Europe again. Consulting, you know."
In the hospitals we go to the hospitalists rule, so it wouldn't make a bit of difference.
Excellent advice. I have a large family and have been through this many times. It helps that my sister is nurse and therefore an excellent advocate.
I'm usually on food and driving duty.
Very best of luck to you and yours and please have a Merry Christmas 🎄
Fcukin' leftists.
Thanks BlogFather and to Anonymous ICU Doc for this.
100% spot on and honey catches more flies than manure.